Workshops & Groups

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Couples Workshops


 

Upcoming Workshops

Check back soon for more info on couples workshops

 
 
From making important decisions and having a place to discuss all the sides of the issues to overcoming serious crisis. We both gained a deeper understanding of our dynamics, our individual childhood wounds and the ones we created together. We feel much happier and connected than ever before.
— G.V.
 
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Women's Group


 

Details

Women's group is ongoing and meets alternating Tuesdays from 7:30-9:00pm at Seattle Mind Counseling in Greenlake. Series length depends on the current book (about 4-8 sessions). 

Cost: $25 per session, paid in full at beginning of each series.

Scheduling is flexible according to the needs of the group.

Location to be provided upon registration.

About

This group is for women only. The focus of the group is to consider life at its origin, and to live in harmony with the way of things. Women finding their own voices, and returning to the community to contribute as only women can do – that will be the quest of this group. This is not a therapy group nor a book group. Deep emotional issues are respectfully noted, but not intruded upon without permission. There is no pressure to talk when you prefer to be quiet. What you share is welcomed. Each 1.5-hour discussion centers on a book selected for its relevance to the feminine self in the given world. Conversations will direct participants to a rigorous look at the self, and a daring challenge toward community. Though intellectually stimulating, the matters will have practical applications. Women, though similar to men in almost all ways, have some significant differences. To filter those differences out from the bustle of ordinary life, and to sharpen their power, is an activity that requires space. This group provides space to read, discuss and learn that which we have left behind, untended and unrefined. We endeavor to bring those qualities back in order to live more intentionally and powerfully. There are issues of health, of community building, of birth, and intuition that often bear the mark of the feminine. We read “Care of the Soul,” by Thomas Moore, a spiritual text of classical foundations After that we read “Habits of the Heart,” by Bella, et al, which broadened our perspective into social life in the United States, comparing the consequences of strong traditional community to the changing perspective of modern individualism.   Sprinkled with discussion led by professionals in the areas of physical health, sexuality and philosophy, women will enjoy each others’ company, and learn from the collective wisdom. Recently we read “Thinking Fast and Slow,” by Daniel Kahneman.  Women are often conflicted between using intuitive thinking and logic. Being capable of both, they are at times reticent about these abilities and do not fully assert themselves in male conversation. This book showed up the different types of thinking, how intuition can at times, and cannot at other times, be trusted, and the cognitive biases that operate in the culture.

Next book

Selfie by Will Storr

We live in the age of the individual. Every day, we’re bombarded with depictions of the beautiful, successful, slim, socially conscious, and extroverted individual that our culture has decided is the perfect self, and we berate ourselves when we don’t measure up. This model of the perfect self and the impossibly high standards it sets can be extremely dangerous. People are suffering under the torture of this impossible fantasy, and unprecedented social pressure is leading to increases in depression and suicide. Journalist and novelist Will Storr began to wonder about this perfect self that torments so many of us: Where does this ideal come from? Why is it so powerful? Is there any way to break its spell? To answer these questions, Storr takes the reader on a journey from the shores of Ancient Greece, through the Christian Middle Ages, to the self-esteem evangelists of 1980s California, the rise of narcissism and the “selfie” generation, and right up to the era of hyper-individualism in which we live now. Selfie tells the epic tale of the person we all know so intimately―because it’s us.

There will be 6 sessions, costing $150 for all 6.

Next session

Tuesdays, alternating weeks, starting July 9, 2018, 7:30 to 9 PM

 

Past books

Can Love Last?: The Fate of Romance Over Time by Stephen A. Mitchell

The Way of Woman by Helen Luke

Hope in the Dark by Rebecca Solnit

The Denial of Death by Ernest Becker

Men Explain Things to Me by Rebecca Solnit

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Mason

Into the Magic Shop by James Doty

Soulmates by Thomas Moore

Soulcraft by Bill Plotkin

The Happiness Hypothesis by Jonathan Haidt

Healing the Heart of Democracy by Parker Palmer

The Mythic Path by Stanley Krippner and Daniel Feinstin

 
 
The discussions are deeply thought provoking, ranging from topics both funny and universal, to quite personal and poignant. Dominique maintains the perfect balance of professionalism and warmth to encourage us all to go deeper in our experience of the material and of ourselves.
— K.F.
 
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Men's Group


 

Details

Men's group is ongoing and meets alternating Tuesdays from 7:30-9:00pm at Seattle Mind Counseling in Greenlake. Series length depends on the current book (about 4-8 sessions). 

Cost: $25 per session, paid in full at beginning of each series.

Scheduling is flexible according to the needs of the group.

Location to be provided upon registration.

About

The focus of the group is to recognize desire as central to motivation. Discussions between men on this topic are not common, and yet, in session after session, the members of the group have found rich rewards they could not have found elsewhere.

This is not a therapy group nor a book group. Deep emotional issues are respectfully noted, but not intruded upon. There is no pressure to talk when you prefer to be quiet. What you share is welcomed.

Each 1.5-hour discussion centers on a book selected for its relevance to human desire and to broadening our understanding of it. Conversations are about practical matters but are also intellectually stimulating. We will talk about relationships and intimacy, as well as about other aspects of life that bring us fulfillment. The group is for men only. I bring a female voice; my role is to keep the group focused on the great matters of life.

Desire, such a natural life force, is often a confusing phenomenon. On the one hand, unmanaged, excessive desire leads to many social problems: alcohol and drugs, sexual deviance and addiction, unstable family relationships, and more. To counteract that trend, people have tried to “give up” desire… as if that were possible. Desire is the engine that drives us to smell a flower, enjoy a child, learn and perfect a skill or sport.

Next book

The Lies that Bind: Rethinking Identity by Kwame Anthony Appiah

Who do you think you are? That’s a question bound up in another: What do you think you are? Gender. Religion. Race. Nationality. Class. Culture. Such affiliations give contours to our sense of self, and shape our polarized world. Yet the collective identities they spawn are riddled with contradictions, and cratered with falsehoods.

Kwame Anthony Appiah’s The Lies That Bind is an incandescent exploration of the nature and history of the identities that define us. It challenges our assumptions about how identities work. We all know there are conflicts between identities, but Appiah shows how identities are created by conflict. Religion, he demonstrates, gains power because it isn’t primarily about belief. Our everyday notions of race are the detritus of discarded nineteenth-century science. Our cherished concept of the sovereign nation―of self-rule―is incoherent and unstable. Class systems can become entrenched by efforts to reform them. Even the very idea of Western culture is a shimmering mirage.

From Anton Wilhelm Amo, the eighteenth-century African child who miraculously became an eminent European philosopher before retiring back to Africa, to Italo Svevo, the literary marvel who changed citizenship without leaving home, to Appiah’s own father, Joseph, an anticolonial firebrand who was ready to give his life for a nation that did not yet exist, Appiah interweaves keen-edged argument with vibrant narratives to expose the myths behind our collective identities.

These “mistaken identities,” Appiah explains, can fuel some of our worst atrocities―from chattel slavery to genocide. And yet, he argues that social identities aren’t something we can simply do away with. They can usher in moral progress and bring significance to our lives by connecting the small scale of our daily existence with larger movements, causes, and concerns.

Elaborating a bold and clarifying new theory of identity, The Lies That Bind is a ringing philosophical statement for the anxious, conflict-ridden twenty-first century. This book will transform the way we think about who―and what―“we” are.

There will be 4 sessions, costing $100 for all 4.

Next session

Tuesdays, alternating weeks, starting September 10, 2019, 7:30 to 9 PM

 

Past books

How to Change your Mind by Michael Pollan

The Heart of Desire: Keys to the Pleasures of Love by Stella Resnick

Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan & Cacilda Jethá

To Be a Man by Robert Augustus Masters

Ethical Slut by Janet Hardy & Dossie Easton

In Praise of Love by Alain Badiou

Loneliness by John Cacioppo & William Patrick

What Do Women Want?

Love Sense by Sue Johnson

Wild Mind by Bill Plotkin

Rivers and Mountains without End  by Gary Snyder

The Practice of the Wild by Gary Snyder

Passionate Marriage by David Schnarch

The Righteous Mind: Why Good People are Divided by Religion and Politics by Jonathan Haidt

Moby Dick by Herman Melville

Erotism: Death and Sensuality by Georges Bataille

Becoming Animal by David Abram

Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel

By Nightfall by Michael Cunningham

 
 
…a great place for men to talk about being better at life… The books have all been very thought provoking… I find myself asking questions derived from the books on daily basis.
— R.J.
 
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